Integrity vs. Morality

One of the first surprises I found in the seminar is to recognize a distinction between integrity and morality. We all tend to collapse the two together rather than distinguishing between them. I am trying to recognize when I do this even unconsciously. Today I was entering the Eisenhower (Interstate Highway) and normally the merge is easy because people take turns and let you in. But today the car I expected to let me in raced forward and didn't. My first reaction was to be annoyed and think of the driver in terms of being selfish, unfair even a bad person. This is an example of collapsing integrity and morality into one and judging another's action rather than seeing a distinction between the two. First, I don't know why the other driver didn't let me in, but I made up a "story" about him being selfish, unfair, etc. That was my story about the event not the event. Second, where is it written we must take turns in life. Perhaps we learned it in Kindergarten, but it certainly isn't a law or even a moral law per se. Finally, it is of no practical use for me to make judgments about events like this because the only one impacted by the judgment is me. Integrity is most valuable when we recognize it as the source for what works in the world and with others. Failure to yield the right of way is to make the merge process less efficient it is not an occasion for a moral judgment.